Working out the DEETS.

To be honest, since wedding planning is my schtick, I really haven't been all that gung ho about planning my own wedding-It's just not on the radar of things that add to my stress. My closest friends are some really talented wed pros, so I'm not worried about all that. What's been on my mind mostly, are the parts of wedding planning that I normally don't do as the wedding planner... things like:

-Who's invited (and how to deal with who's not)! How big can we deal with this guest list getting... (it's growing like a weed.)

-What type of wedding day experience do I want for these guests?! (AND ahem, also for me and my groom!?)

-Where is all the family going to stay?! 

-Family + Friend Dynamics: Fun fact: Our parents have never met each other. Our families are from totally different parts of the country. Our friends are all SO different. My biggest challenge yet might be bringing all these people together, and making sure that we have something planned that will work for everyone on the spectrum of varying taste, backgrounds, activity levels and interest. 

-Skin care + fitness. If I'm going to be able to make it to the wedding day with good skin and a "fit looking" bod, I have GOT to find: 1) a work out plan that I'll actually do consistently and 2) a facialist that isn't going to ruin my sensitive skin or my bank account. 

Stay tuned for the rest of the wedding planning updates... J and I are in discussions about venue choices, and what type of wedding weekend we might want. 

 

I Said YES.

It was my birthday weekend, and he took me to a place that was the dream combination of all my favorite things: wine-oysters-fancy history-and live music. NAPA! 

Going away for a surprise weekend on my birthday isn't out of the ordinary, so I was NOT suspect of being proposed to, though I definitely  told a few of my closest friends that if he didn't propose this weekend that it would be so completely LAME because I really didn't want to be cliche and be a holiday proposal, and the foreseeable future was full of holidays (It was November). 

Every element was a surprise, we stayed at the Churchill Manor, lunched at the Oxbow Market, and had an afternoon appointment somewhere that was naturally a surprise. 

It was mid-afternoon, and it had been pouring rain all weekend and as we were leaving to go outside all of a sudden Hotel California was playing on the house speakers (which was weird because it had been classical music the whole time), and we walked outside and he wouldn't let me grab an umbrella. Ok, weird. Then he told me to walk with him down the path to the fountain and to look in it, and there was so totally nothing there, but when I turned around there he was, down on one knee with a stunning rose gold ring in a blue box. And all I could say was "you're doing this NOW?!".  

I started crying, and he did too, and we were both kind of speechless. And finally he asked, I said yes, and he put the ring on my finger and then I realized, a close friend and wedding photographer from Utah, Logan Walker was there-and had captured the whole thing. And I started crying all over again! It was so amazing, and then BOOM. It hit me, I finally knew what it was like to be the bride.

 

There's all this stuff, that as a professional, you kind of know people do once they get engaged, but you don't really know unless you've been engaged and married before. So all of a sudden, we found ourselves posing for engagement photos, taking ring selfies, and facetiming our parents. We decided to just share our news quietly to our close friends first and wait until the morning to make a social media announcement. Turns out, a lot more people knew it was going to happen than I did and keeping it a secret was quite the project. 

We went to dinner and live music at the then new to Napa Blue Note Jazz Club and watched two sets of the incredible Dee Dee Bridgewater. We even got to meet her in between sets and she held our hands and personally congratulated us. It was the most surreal and precious day ever.